Help yourself, ask for help, offer help! SPARK the conversation to prevent suicides! #WSPD
Within each of us, there is a spark, and sometimes that spark seems to go dark. In reality, it becomes a very small ember with a very small flame waiting for oxygen to ignite it once again. When dark thoughts appear, they can come out of nowhere and for presumably no reason at all. Of course, we know there was something that caused it, but when you are in that moment, it’s hard to figure it out without some help.
Today, September 10, 2019 is World Suicide Prevention Day #WSPD. It seems sad to have to designate a day, a week, a month to address this overwhelming and heartbreaking topic. Yesterday, the World Health Organization announced that every 40 seconds one person dies by suicide. Every. 40. Seconds. My heart can’t compute that. Although it knows what it’s like to be in that dark moment with those dark thoughts believing there is no spark.
There are two thoughts that reoccur regularly, especially when this topic arises that I’ve been wanting to share for a long time.
- If you are in a dark place right now or having dark thoughts or think your family, friends, community and world would be better without you, you are WRONG. Turn to someone, call someone and say, “I can’t be alone right now. Can you stay with me?” And then call the
National Suicide Prevention Lifeline 1-800-273-8255 (Available 24/7)
Or text HELLO to 741741
to get some professional support from caring people. Or call the number first, and say, “I am having dark thoughts. I can’t be alone right now.” See the list of soundbites below for more cues to help yourself and request help.
- If you are a survivor from a loved one who took their own life, please know that it is NOT your fault. There is nothing you could have done. Your loved one was in so much excruciating pain that they truly did not believe there was another option. I’ve been there. I can’t explain it. I just know the pain I was in, and that I truly thought life for all would be better without me. If you are feeling guilty, don’t any longer. If you are feeling anger, that’s understandable. Talk to your loved one who passed. Their love did not end when they passed, talk to them, tell them you love them. Forgive them and forgive yourself, if it feels needed. Allow yourself to heal minute by minute, hour by hour, day by day. Get support because you deserve to be gentle and kind to yourself.
I love to inspire all of us to SPARK! the conversation about depression, anxiety and suicide ideations! Why? Because it starts with human compassion for us and others and we are the only ones who can help each other.
TO HELP YOURSELF
I have purpose.
There is more for me when my spark ignites.
I have hope.
I am loved.
I love others.
Someone can help me.
I need help.
I want to take care of myself and get the help I need.
REQUEST HELP FOR YOURSELF
I am feeling…
I don’t know why I am feeling this, but…
I need support.
I need to talk.
I think I need to see a doctor.
I’m having dark thoughts right now.
I can’t be alone right now.
Can you stay with me?
Ask doctor, friends or family for referral.
How can I help you?
What are you feeling?
Do you know why you are feeling this way?
What do you need?
I’m here for you.
When was the last time you had dark thoughts?
Are you in a dark place right now?
You Matter. I love you.
Learn more and receive compassionate support from these organizations for depression, anxiety and suicide ideations.
- Talk with your medical doctor for referrals.
- Visit PsychologyToday.com for referrals; Click on “Find a Therapist.”
- Community Health Centers, Catholic Charities, Metropolitan Family Services
- Employee Assistance Programs at larger corporations
- The U.S. Mental Health Parity Act deemed that behavioral health be classified as major medical which provides for health insurance coverage.
- Depression is covered by the Americans with Disabilities Act which now includes FMLA benefits.
- National Suicide Prevention Lifeline 24/7 – call 1-800-273-8255 or text TALK to 741741
- American Foundation for Suicide Prevention AFSP.org
- National Alliance on Mental Health – org – call 1-800-950-6264/M-F 10am-6pm ET or text NAMI to 741741
- Anxiety and Depression Association of America (ADAA) – org – call 240-485-1001
About Cindy Tschosik
Cindy Tschosik juggles her professional life between speaking professionally and ghost writing / developmental editing non-fiction books.
Speaking as “The Happy Depressed Human,” Cindy edutains audiences through humor to recognize the symptoms of anxiety, depression and suicidal ideations. Through interactive exercises of small groups, attendees learn important life skills about how to help themselves, request help and offer help for those struggling with mental health matters. Visit CindyTschosik.com
On video, phone, in person and behind the laptop, Cindy leads people to realize their dreams of writing a book. No matter which stage a book has reached, she dons her “Content Counselor” hat, she wiggles into her “Edward” Scissorhands, grabs her wax to polish manuscripts of the highest quality and gets the book done for her authors! Visit SoConnectedLLC.com
Cindy stays primed with her speaking skills as a Board Member and Co-Dean of the NSA Illinois Speakers Academy, as a member of National Speakers Association and as an Advisor of C-Suite Network. As a member of Non-Fiction Authors Association, Association of Ghost Writers and Off-Campus Writers Workshop she stays current and relevant with both writing and publishing trends.
When Cindy is not getting “SoConnected” to audiences and authors, she spends precious time with her husband of 25-years, their #threeteens, ‘wine-ing’ with #awesomefriends, reveling in nature’s beauty and snuggling with her soft and curly cockapoopoo puppy. Yes, really.
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